Measuring the True Cost of Divorce
I have posted a number of articles on my Georgia Family Law Blog site on the topic of Collaborative Divorce Law. The following, about the intangible values in resolving a divorce case in a more respectful manner, is from an article by Bruce Derman, Ph.D., of The Coalition for Collaborative Divorce, from its site, NoCourtDivorce.com:
There are many things that go into the price of a divorce besides money and property. See if any of the following are costly for you by filling in the value of each item. At the end total the amounts and you will begin to see the true cost of your divorce.
| What is it worth to truly celebrate your child's wedding together? | $_______ |
| What is it worth to be able to co-parent your children? | $_______ |
| What is it worth for your child to not end up in therapy as a result of your divorce? | $_______ |
| What is it worth for your children not to be emotionally scarred from your divorce? | $_______ |
| What is it worth to have your ex support your visions for your children? | $_______ |
| What is it worth to be able to look in your adult son or daughters eyes knowing you ended their most important relationship with dignity and integrity? | $_______ |
| What is it worth to be able to have your children grow up in a safe, respectful, non-abusive atmosphere? | $_______ |
| What is it worth for your child to not have to take care of your emotionally following your divorce? | $_______ |
| What is it worth to not drag your ex into your next relationship? | $_______ |
| What is it worth to resolve your long-term concerns for your family? | $_______ |
| What is it worth to not live under the threat of going back to court constantly? | $_______ |
| What is it worth to support your highest self and not your lowest? | $_______ |
| What is it worth to not have to continually obsess on the unsatisfactory experiences that occurred in your divorce? | $_______ |
| What is it worth to feel that the decisions involved tin ending your marriage were not yours? | $_______ |
| What is it worth to live your life from love, not hate? | $_______ |
| TOTAL COST OF DIVORCE | $_______ |
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